{my husband, the healer}

i just want to blog about my husband and tell you how great he is.
recently he jumped over to the dark side and joined me in probation.
having worked together for the last 4 years,
and then working apart for the last year,
i was over the moon to find ourselves holding hands walking to work together again... sigh :)

anyway, he rocks.
because he changes lives.
truly. from the heart.
he's recently taken on a handful of new cases.
all young men, under the age of 21.
all angry young men, with tough childhoods.
all broken young men,
who now find themselves on the wrong side of the tracks...

and he connects with them.

because he's been there.
they may share different stories,
but the core emotions and experiences are the same.
and they can see he hears them.
he doesn't condone or justify some of the things they have done,
but he understands,
and he knows they can be more than the sum of their past.
he believes they can have a brighter future for themselves,
if they learn to chose it.

for some of these guys,
it's probably the first time someone believes in them.
the first time someone sees potential in them.
the first time someone tells them something affirming. something positive.
the first time someone refers to their future without crime. without drugs.
the first time someone says this all to them, genuinely .

because they can see it.
they can feel it.
the magic is...
then they respond to it.

you see, one thing i have come to realise about a lot of the people we work with is this:
they may not be the most educated, most articulate, most aware people in the world;
but they are some of the most sensitive.
having grown up reading the "vibes" of those around them - be it for comfort or survival - they are constantly conscious and processing how they feel about the people around them.
throw into the mix they are often used and abused by the people around them,
you can see how difficult it can be at times to gain a rapport or develop a connection.

so my husband is amazing.
he manages to break through those layers.
seemingly effortlessly.
and he gets to the person behind the image.
behind the bravado. the shield. the defense.
he gets to core and sees the hurt.
connects with the child. the pain.

and then slowly,
but surely,
he sets about healing it.

hey, do you know i love my husband? :)